Yes, failing at something or not being able to get it right, is also a way of winning. you are winning to get it better, to do better, and to become better. people fail – it is ok. successful people dit not become successful immediately, it took time, they continuously tried to fix their mistakes, they put in long hours to learn from their mistakes and to grow, not only in themselves but also in their industry. i cant tell you how many times have I failed at something. how many times I didn’t win a crown, or walked the ramp, or even got the gig, but it never stopped me. even to this day, writing this, nothing is stopping me from getting one step closer to my goals and dreams!
speaking of goals and dreams, do you have a vision board? you know, a piece of paper, filled with your yearly goals and inspirations? i have, i have kept every vision board i have made since 2020 and I believe in it. it is great to:
1. review it every now and then and see what have you accomplished, what are you still working on and what have you not even tried yet.
2. it inspires you to try and try again.
3. it reminds you to think of how you felt the day you created it – that insperational feeling you had.
4. mentally it feeds your thoughts to manifest dreams and goals.
5. a vision board is the ideal motivational tool for anyone who sometimes falls lost in their negative mindset, or negative enviroment to get back on the positive horse and continue.
so to give you a brief description of my vision board for 2024:
“reinvent” – I want to reinvent my life, my goals, the people i hang around with, the hobbies I have to use my time, the things I spend time on, the people I spend time with. sometimes you need to let go of certain people, hobbies, places and things to be able to move forward and become better.
“be more inspired” – Yes, I know I am a inspiration to people who knows me, but i feel like i can reach more souls, and inspire more people. so this year putting myself and my stories out into the world is my way of becoming more inspired.
“Explore” –I have always loved to travel and explore unknown destinations, but this year the word ‘explore’ does not only focus on where I go, but also I want to explore myself. what am I capable of doing? how far can I go? how deep can I swim? will I enjoy a new cuisine? and so on.
“Land of the free; Home of the brave” (with an american flag) – so recently I found myself making home in NJ USA. I believe what I am currently doing is being brave, following my gut feeling into a unknown country, with people and cultures i have very little to no knoledge about, and exploring the possiblities.
“buy a painting” – I love art, i love making art although i have no idea what i am doing, but i want to buy an art piece from an auction , or charity campain.
“music” (with a guitar picture) – I love music, but I have no idea how to make music, so I bought a guitar. anyone willing to provide me with lessons? PS also I am a lefty so that makes learning to play a guitar even more interesting.
“family”
(with photos of my son) – boom! shocker! yes I am a mother, I want to be more there for my son, especially financially, but also emotionally.
this quote “This is a story about persistance. about putting one foot infront of the other…. and eventually ending up where i wanted to go.” – I think the quote says it all. trusting my gut feeling more this year.
“NYFW truth” – yes I want to walk at NYFW again in September but I also want to tell people the truth about this industry!
there you have it. my vision board for 2024. simple, yet reach able. did you know my very first vision board in 2020 had more images of things i wanted to buy on that goals i wanted to reach, and as the years passed i realized it was not about what i own that makes me happy, but what i do with myself, how i grow in myself, how i trust myself, that is what makes happy.
so coming back to failing is also WINning, because it is true. you take 2 steps forward and 3 steps back, but you learn, and you know now that you need to jump two steps, because jumping a step goes further than taking a step – meaning sometimes you just need to do it. try it. go for it. believe it. no matter what. and if it doesn’t work out?
then you can tell yourself, you tried and it is ok! imagine you never even tried!? and for the rest of your live you will wonder what could have been…. i can’t live like that. i want to know what the outcome will be even if i fail. for example if I fail this current journey i am on, then you know what, i will return back to South Africa and try again. i have learned so much about myself that somedays I feel that I can just pack up and return just to try again! not because I am failing or winning but because now I know where I went wrong, and I want to try it again – but better!
also a side note – it is ok to have a bad moment, bad day, bad week, bad month even. your mind needs the downtime to restart like a computer glitching, just let it restart and it will be as good as new. we need to have a day where we feel unworthy, where we feel like whatever we do is wrong, where crying feels like our only choice and where anger rages in our veins, BUT don’t let those emotions over power your thoughts and your words. take the time, restart and try again. when i have a bad emotional day, i force myself to do my make-up, make myself pretty, and take a selfie or two, and when i am really really down, i curl up in bed, (under my fluffy blanky), i watch a few movies where I cry about the characters, i get the sadness out of my system, i wash my face and I go for a long walk – outside! fresh air has never killed anyone – it has helped many people to get their focus back, and now I make a priority of it to go for a long walk every morning before I start my day to just take it all in. have you ever just sat and watched how nature takes its course and everything around it seems fine with it? once you appreciate the small things, the bigger things will fall into place.
so i am leaving you with this…. failing is a word we as humans created, so can’t you change your mindset and see failing as an opportunity to win? if you can do that,
anything will be possible!
